Dec 15, 2022Member-onlySad songs make me happy.And so do other paradoxes of life. For a half a year after I graduated from college I felt uneasy about the uncertainty that followed suit. …Mental Health3 min readMental Health3 min read
Nov 14, 2022Member-onlyThe story you told yourself isn’t real.And so are all the other lies you probably told yourself. Imagine the earliest memory you have. What do you see? Who do you see? What do you taste or smell? I suspect that you can’t remember every sense of that moment, which is normal. Memories fade, but you also…Psychology3 min readPsychology3 min read
Jan 27, 2022Member-onlyWhy you should stop expecting the unexpectedHow to stop being disappointed all the time. — What remains to be false is that you can expect how someone feels, reacts, unless they’re a character in a TV show or the verbatim description in your astrology textbook. We expect so much from so many things, some that haven’t even earned our trust. …Mindfulness6 min readMindfulness6 min read
Jan 11, 2022Member-onlyCan confusion be comforting?Can confusion be comforting? For too long, I didn’t have the language to understand how I felt. I knew I never felt happy, but there wasn’t much of a stretch between sad, angry and stressed either. When you’re left without answers, it can be so overwhelming and confusing. …Language3 min readLanguage3 min read
Dec 12, 2021Member-onlyPerfecting Imperfection: Lessons from a year of self-helpI was never really a reader, well only if you count dystopian teen novels, endless scrolling through social media and reading headlines. I’d dodge high school reading assignments by using friends for answers and textbook reading in college was more a suggestion rather than required. With all that said, I…Self Improvement5 min readSelf Improvement5 min read
Dec 4, 2021Member-onlyThe innocence of anonymous cookiesThere is nothing more comforting than a chocolate chip cookie, in any form brand, flavor. When you give free cookies out, well damn that’s just a place I want to be. No I’m not talking about an open house or a furniture store, it was Sweet Tomatoes, the salad bar…Personal Essay3 min readPersonal Essay3 min read
Oct 31, 2021Member-onlymagical pain of alonenessTo feel other than and unlike those around you is normal, but the truth is that is a painful choice. You can choose to trap yourself in a society or stereotype produced box. You can choose to be paralyzed by the pain it takes to be real, or replace it…Mindfulness3 min readMindfulness3 min read
Oct 12, 2021Member-onlyThe consequence of “coming out” cultureThe consequence of “coming out” culture Labels can be non-flexible. Colors are imaginary and subjective interpretations, yet blue in all shades is always blue. Thanks to survival instincts, we have adopted adjectives as safety signals in communication. “Bear is deadly.” “Berry is tasty.” When you shop for eggs in America…Queer3 min readQueer3 min read
Sep 2, 2021Member-onlythe unending climbA message to mountain climbers old and new: The way you confront fear and survive is a gift, not to be misused. The path up a daunting steep cliff is blinded by the winding jagged turns you can half-see blurred in the distance. …Self Improvement2 min readSelf Improvement2 min read
Feb 8, 2021Member-onlyAvoiding the Process is Avoiding CreationAvoiding the Process is Avoiding Creation POV: just finished listening to a podcast series with Brené Brown and Dr. Sarah Lewis and needed to brain dump. It’s not an article, read it twice. Motivating yourself to confirm your own talent or passion is like a dog teaching itself to roll…Personal Essay2 min readPersonal Essay2 min read
